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What Does Your Vagina Say?


In a moment, once you’ve read this paragraph, close your eyes, and become aware of your vagina:

How well can you feel her?
How much are you connected to her?
How deep inside can you perceive?
Is she warm or cold?
Is she dry, moist, or dripping wet?
Is she contracted and tensed or expanded and relaxed?
Is she aroused or shut down?
Is she throbbing and pulsating?
Is she happy?
Do you love how she looks, smells and tastes?
Do you love your vagina?

Close your eyes for a few minutes and feel into her.

Now that you’ve opened your eyes, take a few moments to write down the answers in your orgasmic diary.


Many women I meet and work with don’t have good connection, perception or control over such an important part of their body and their femininity.

Those who do have perception and control are usually more orgasmic, more feminine, and more sexually expressive.

Your connection with your vagina is your connection with your femininity, with being a woman, and to some extent with being alive. It affects your connection with the women in your life – your mother, sister, daughter and female friends. It affects the sort of men – and women – you attract and the kind of interaction you may have with them, be it a sexual, romantic, friendly, social, professional, or official.

Your connection with your vagina and your feminine side affects your intuition, your creativity and your spiritual practice; it makes you either rigid or flexible – in your body, thoughts and actions.

And obviously, your connection with your vagina makes your more orgasmic, sexually expressive and sensual.


Write down in two sections all the positive and all the negative sensations, thoughts, judgments, feelings, perceptions and experiences related with your vagina.

For example “I don’t like my hairy pussy”, “I get yeast infection often and I hate it”, “my husband penetrates me before I’m ready and my vagina hurts after sex”, “I love how she changes through the month” or “I love how my pussy pulsates when I’m aroused.”

Aim to have at least 20 in total. More is better.

Now write down a few more words related to your perception of other women’s vaginas.

Once you finished, look at your list, and ask yourself:

Is your perception of your vagina positive or negative?
In what ways is this affecting your state of being, joy, relationship, motherhood, friendships, creativity, career or business?
What beliefs can you adopt to empower yourself?

“Sometimes, it’s better to believe what is serving you, not what is true” ~ Paraphrased from Mark Manson

The following sections are hopefully going to clear some of your limiting beliefs and heal some of your experiences with your vagina (that will appear in the book…).


1. For this exercise, either write down the answers to the following questions, or record yourself speaking via your smartphone, computer, video camera or voice recorder.

2. Imagine your Yoni could speak.

What would she say?
How would she describe herself?
How is she feeling right now?
What would she tell you?
What is she angry about?
What does she love?
What does she want?
What does she want from you?
What does she want from your current or future partner?

3. Say or write it in the first person, e.g., “I am a bit cold now and I would like you to touch me more often”, “I don’t want you to allow anyone to come into me if I’m not ready”, “I would love you to use a big dildo to explore all of me.”
Speak or write without censoring, without trying to understand. Your Yoni doesn’t need to make sense.

4. Write down your feelings and reflections on what your Yoni told you

5. How can you better respect, serve and satisfy your Yoni? What can you do right now for her? What can you do soon and on a regular basis for her? What do you need to stop doing? Take a commitment. Schedule it.

6. Consider doing this exercise every month or whenever you feel disconnected from your Yoni.

How does this section sound and feel for you?
I would love to hear your feedback and to know what I can do so my writing can serve more women.

This article was originally published in Love Coach Journey.